Modern life, with all its digital interventions and opportunities has left many working Mums living life in the fast lane. With only 24 hours in a day, the laundry list for each day’s tasks can become overwhelming as women balance having children and maintaining or advancing a career.
We all recognise the symptoms of feeling overwhelmed by the sheer number of things on our to do list. No sooner we tick a few items off, the next few are added.
Motherhood has no set hours, it’s a job where you’re always on call and whilst it’s a true labour of love, it can take (an often untalked about) toll on women’s mental, physical, financial and emotional wellbeing.
Women often end up being the taxi, head chef, housekeeper, nurse and bread winner all at the same time. That’s a full-time job alone without trying to also maintain romantic relationships, friendships and scheduling exercise too. The demands of the modern workplace, with its 24:7 connectivity, especially post the tumultuous 2020 we’ve been delivered, is bringing an additional pressure to already time stretched Mums. By the time evening rolls around, many women report being exhausted, too tired to enjoy the little time they have to spend on themselves.
The average working Mum works a phenomenal 98 hours* per week, that’s the equivalent to 2 full time jobs and leaves the average Mum only seven, yes just seven minutes to themselves each day. Let’s let that sink in.
It’s no wonder so many Mums are feeling frazzled and overworked. When we scratch beneath the surface, it’s clear to see that the issue lies in the fact that working Mums are trying to do it all and it’s created a behaviour pattern which is challenging to undo. Women are attempting to parent like they don’t work, and work as though there are no precious cherubs at home. And it’s leaving them exhausted and feeling undervalued.
Enter stage right, the art of delegation. Delegating the tasks which you don’t enjoy, or don’t have the time for. It’s time to step up and become more like the CEO of your house, not just a worker bee employed to keep all the balls juggled neatly in the air. Take the time to look at what you can actually delegate – perhaps it’s finding a cleaner to scrub the bathrooms each week, or a laundry service to iron all your shirts, maybe it’s a virtual assistant to purchase birthday presents and send anniversary cards for you.
It’s irrelevant what you delegate – this will of course differ depending on your unique circumstances, but what’s important is that you try.
Of course, your partner and children can and should also pitch in to reduce the mental overload of having to think and plan everything, as well as take some of the tasks off your to do list.
Creating a chore chart for your children can work wonders at taking those small, frequent tasks away from you with the added benefit of eventually producing adults who understand how a house runs. It may take a fair amount of nagging and re-doing to start with but will
pay dividends once they get the hang of their responsibilities and will almost certainly buy you some time back in your day.
Managing your time through delegation is just about the biggest gift you can give yourself. It’s not just buying back time, but a small slice of your sanity too.
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